Who Deserves Help? And Why We Keep Getting This Question Wrong

February 13, 2026.Reading time 5 minutes.

Somewhere along the way, we started treating help like a reward. Like something people have to earn.Prove.Justify. Instead of something given because someone is struggling. And that mindset is doing real harm. The “Deserving” Narrative We hear it all the time: “They should just work harder.”“They made bad choices.”“They shouldn’t have had kids.”“They should budget […]

Proving You’re Struggling: When Asking for Help Becomes Another Battle

February 10, 2026.Reading time 7 minutes.

There’s something deeply wrong with a system where people have to prove their pain before they’re allowed support. Not explain it.Not share it.Prove it. With paperwork.With evidence.With repeated retelling of the worst moments of their lives. For many people, asking for help doesn’t bring relief.It brings another exhausting fight. The Paperwork of Survival If you’ve […]

The School Holidays Struggle: Surviving Summer and Preparing for Back to School

August 6, 2025.Reading time 3 minutes.

Summer holidays can be a strange time. They’re meant to be a break — a chance to breathe, spend time with the kids, maybe even enjoy a bit of sunshine. But if I’m honest, they often feel more like a pressure cooker. The cost of keeping children entertained, fed, and kitted out for the next […]