Seven Years Later

March 8, 2026.Reading time 7 minutes.

The anniversary is looming, a week today, and this has been playing on my mind more than I expected. It has been seven years since I was first sexually assaulted. The same year our Mark died. Sometimes people separate those events in their minds. I can’t. They live in the same year. The same body. […]

Finding Support with Chronic Illness

July 30, 2025.Reading time 4 minutes.

Living with chronic illness is exhausting. Not just the pain, the brain fog, the fatigue, the flare-ups… but the endless admin, the explaining, the guilt, the “you don’t look sick” comments. It’s a full-time job in survival — and most days, it pays in exhaustion. And some of the worst moments? They’re not even about […]

What To Do When “That Day” Happens?

June 22, 2020.Reading time 60 minutes.

Many people have asked me what to do, who to contact and how it’s expected for you to be when your person dies, so I thought I’d share what I’ve learned during the last 6 months. What to do? Be hysterical. Be calm. Be whatever you need to be. There are no rules when your […]

Acceptance

May 27, 2020.Reading time 3 minutes.

Holiday 2 of 4 cancelled. Part of me is pleased because COVID is still amongst us. When I add to the fact I’m nowhere near ready to leave the house and mingle with people, it makes for a good outcome. The other half of me is conflicted; I should leave the house, I should be […]

142 Days

May 4, 2020.Reading time 6 minutes.

How do people who have suffered trauma cope with lockdown, with every day a Groundhog Day of pain? I can only speak for myself, but I’ve been on my own lockdown for the last 142 days. Yes, I’m counting. Each day presents new or repetitive challenges but the basis is the same. Dealing with the […]