I won’t sugar-coat it — life’s been brutal at times.
Some days I’ve found myself staring at the wall, wondering how I’m still supposed to function when it feels like the world has gone mad and my own heart is still trying to glue itself back together.

But somehow, even in the middle of the mess, I’ve started to notice flickers of something softer. Not the toxic “good vibes only” kind of positivity — but the kind that comes quietly, like a cup of tea someone puts in your hand without you having to ask. The kind that says: *I see you. You’re still here. That matters.*

What positivity isn’t

Let’s be clear:
– Positivity isn’t pretending everything’s fine.
– It isn’t slapping a smile on top of trauma.
– And it definitely isn’t about denying grief, rage, exhaustion, or fear.

Sometimes positivity is crying your eyes out and still texting a friend back.
Sometimes it’s saying, *“I can’t do this today”* — and meaning it.
Sometimes it’s just getting through the next hour.

What positivity can be

For me, positivity has looked like:
– Watching my cats breathe softly in their sleep
– Being honest with someone when I’m struggling
– Noticing the sky turn pink, even when everything inside feels grey
– Writing something that makes someone feel less alone
– Letting go of perfection, and choosing to begin again

It’s not about fixing everything. It’s about softening enough to let something else in.

When things get really hard

If you’re reading this and you’re right in the middle of it — the heartbreak, the loss, the confusion — I just want to say: you are not broken. You are human. And humans bend. We don’t always bounce back in the way we used to, but we do grow new roots, often in places we never expected.

Through the Mark Hewitson Foundation, we’ve seen people go through the worst life can throw and still offer kindness to others. Still reach out. Still try. And if that’s not resilience, I don’t know what is.

Final thought

Positivity in adversity isn’t about being cheerful — it’s about choosing to keep your heart open, even when it would be easier to shut down. It’s about tiny, sacred acts of defiance against despair.

You’re doing better than you think. Keep going, even if it’s slow.

Especially if it’s slow x